1. In order to spend time with each parent, you do end up splitting your family up for at least a day or so. A few weekends ago I took my DD out for "girl's day" and we shopped for summer dresses for her, and played at the big playground I never take her to, and even ate fast food (we never do because of DS's allergies). It was a fun day that we spent together. DH stayed home with our son and they played outside and took a walk around the neighborhood, and had their time together as well. Then last weekend we switched it up and DD went to a picnic with my husband while I stayed home with DS and had cuddle time and lunch and napping for both of us.

We try to spend at least one day a month alone with each child, and some time alone with both kids while the other parent goes out alone or *gasp!* with other adults. It's nice to be able to enjoy the strengths and sweetness of one child at a time sometimes. Some things get overshadowed by siblings.

Posted at 7:59PM on Mar 23rd 2008 by Sabrina

2. We love to split time with the girls but the husband can't get US Army to leave him home long enough, so we do not get to do it often. Now, with the addition of the newbies, we will make it work somehow. Right now he is home because of the babes for 12 wks, so he has been doing alot of things with the older girls while the babes are being hijacked by me....it's different having been tired from preg and then having the nb vs no preg, and two nb.

Posted at 8:09PM on Mar 23rd 2008 by isisaquaria

3. We commonly split the kids up with each parent. My son loves "daddy time" and will want to tag along when my husband goes anywhere, to the library, to the stores, or just across the street to vist the neighbors. My daughter would rather stay home but occasionaly she chooses to go with one of us on an errand, only if her brother is not going. They love to have time with one parent all by themselves and they are so much better behaved when they do.

Posted at 11:05PM on Mar 23rd 2008 by Anita